Have you added a new horse or pet to your herd or household recently? Is the fur flying?
I often get asked to help people who’s animals are not getting along. Sometimes they’ve never got along and the owner is at their wits end, and sometimes it’s because a new horse or pet has been added to the mix.
Whether they’re the same species or not, and whether they’re in your home or out in the paddock, animals that are fighting with – or avoiding – each other adds one more stress to our lives we could do without!
So, why does it happen? Here’s what I find:
- The existing pet wasn’t told a new family member was coming. You might think that surely they’d be grateful for the company – but they might be quite happy having ALL of your attention to themselves!
- If you’re attempting to replace (or fill the gap left by) a pet that has passed on, it’s possible that the remaining animal/s are still grieving, and not ready to get to know someone new.
- The new pet is getting all the attention… If you’ve added a cute puppy or kitten to the mix, not only does the cuteness factor grab all your focus, but they also require a lot of supervision and training. Your existing pet/s might be jealous – or sad. They might feel angry, resentful, passed over, not good enough, and they might start playing up as a way to get your attention back on them.
- Your ‘old’ pet can’t keep up with the new one. Your existing dog might be past playing and being pestered all the time, or may have health issues that make them grumpy. Yes, people say a new puppy will keep your old dog young – but there are no guarantees.
What can you do about it? The biggest thing is to prepare in advance.
- Have a good think about WHY you are adding to the (fur)family, and whether it’s a valid reason. Is just being sad, or missing a pet that’s passed, enough? Are you trying to fill the void rather than deal with the grief? Do you know for a fact that your existing pet WANTS company – or do you just have everything crossed?
- Is your existing pet ready and willing? Are they healthy and capable of interacting with a younger animal, if that’s what you’re getting? You can try asking them, or, at the very least telling them – give them some advance warning of what is going to happen, why, and how it affects them.
And here’s how an Animal Communicator might be able to aid your decision making:
- By asking your existing animal/s up front whether they’d like a companion, or another family member. If the answer is ‘No’, we can also ask why, and whether there’s anything you or I can do about it.
- If the decision is already made, we can explain things to the existing fur family, including why, how it will affect them, and what’s expected of them
- Bringing new energy into the home (or paddock) can disrupt the existing energetic balance. Once the new family member arrives, it can be highly beneficial to re-balance the energy fields of each animal, then balance their collective energy.
- After the fact – if the fur really is flying, we can have a chat to the parties involved and see what’s required to settle things down!
Trisha Wren has been an equine professional for most of her adult life. She rode, competed, and taught Western Riding for 15 years in Scotland, then taught horse and rider bio-mechanics in New Zealand and Australia. She’s been a full time horse and animal communicator since April 2016, and also runs regular Animal Communication online workshops. Find out more about Trisha here.